For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.–Romans 8:38-39

Marriage is Not the Ultimate Good

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I love my husband! He’s my best friend, lover, hero, favorite pastor, counselor, dessert taster and laundry folder! We laugh, cry, mourn, celebrate, pray, study, read, strategize, dream, and do nothing together. My life is made more joyous and full because of him. There is no other person on the planet who compares to him in my eyes and heart. BUT…my love for him has bounds. My love for Christ far outweighs the love I have for Thabiti, and he would not have it any other way! My love for him is also bounded by this life. It is for this age.

The people of this age marry and are given in marriage. But those who are considered worthy of taking part in that age and in the resurrection from the dead will neither marry nor be given in marriage, and they can no longer die; for they are like the angels (Luke 20:34-36).

I’ve been reading a wonderful book called God’s Design for Women by Sharon James. In it, she reminds us that Jesus puts marriage in its eternal perspective. She says:

Implying that marriage is the ultimate good ignores the biblical teaching that marriage was designed as a temporary illustration of an eternal reality.

The eternal reality is the love of Jesus, the bridegroom for his bride the church. Whether married or single, all Christians equally are participants in that reality. Human marriage is just a signpost pointing to something greater and more lasting (Ephesians 5:32). When well-meaning married Christians patronize their single friends by implying that life isn’t worth living unless one is married, they are disbelieving Jesus’ teaching.

No, Jesus teaches that the ultimate good is his love for us. That love is faithful, passionate and everlasting. We find our greatest happiness in him. (p. 144)

Author: Kristie

Kristie is a pastor's wife, mom, Bible teacher, and author of His Testimonies, My Heritage: Women of Color on the Word of God, which will be released in September. She currently serves as the Associate Director of Women's Workshops for the Charles Simeon Trust, helping to equip women Bible teachers. She joyfully supports her husband of almost 28 years, Thabiti, as he pastors Anacostia River Church in Washington, DC. They have 3 children. She has written contributions to the ESV Women's Devotional Bible; Word-Filled Women's Ministry: Loving and Serving the Church; Women on Life: A Call to Love the Unborn, Unloved and Neglected; and Hospitality Matters: Reviving an Ancient Practice for Modern Missions. Her work can also be found at The Front Porch, The Gospel Coalition, Desiring God, Christianity Today, and Revive Our Hearts. You can follow her on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter (@kanyabwile).

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