I love my husband! He’s my best friend, lover, hero, favorite pastor, counselor, dessert taster and laundry folder! We laugh, cry, mourn, celebrate, pray, study, read, strategize, dream, and do nothing together. My life is made more joyous and full because of him. There is no other person on the planet who compares to him in my eyes and heart. BUT…my love for him has bounds. My love for Christ far outweighs the love I have for Thabiti, and he would not have it any other way! My love for him is also bounded by this life. It is for this age.
The people of this age marry and are given in marriage. But those who are considered worthy of taking part in that age and in the resurrection from the dead will neither marry nor be given in marriage, and they can no longer die; for they are like the angels (Luke 20:34-36).
I’ve been reading a wonderful book called God’s Design for Women by Sharon James. In it, she reminds us that Jesus puts marriage in its eternal perspective. She says:
Implying that marriage is the ultimate good ignores the biblical teaching that marriage was designed as a temporary illustration of an eternal reality.
The eternal reality is the love of Jesus, the bridegroom for his bride the church. Whether married or single, all Christians equally are participants in that reality. Human marriage is just a signpost pointing to something greater and more lasting (Ephesians 5:32). When well-meaning married Christians patronize their single friends by implying that life isn’t worth living unless one is married, they are disbelieving Jesus’ teaching.
No, Jesus teaches that the ultimate good is his love for us. That love is faithful, passionate and everlasting. We find our greatest happiness in him. (p. 144)