For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.–Romans 8:38-39

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Learning Submission on I-95

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It was a joy to share with Domestic Kingdom readers, some of the lessons the Lord taught me about submission on I-95! Please add to your blog rolls, readers/feeds and to your prayers!

Here’s a snippet:

When we moved from Washington, DC we took a long road trip down the coast to visit family along the way and have our car shipped to the Cayman Islands. We were embarking on a new phase of life and ministry together.

After visiting family in North Carolina, we decided to stop in Savannah, Georgia (I wanted to go to Paula Dean’s Restaurant) and also in Orlando, Florida (for Disney, of course).

Weeks in advance, I started asking Thabiti about our travel plans. Should I go ahead and book hotels? Where would he like to stay and for how long? What other stops should we make along the way? His response– silence.

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My Guy

Today marks the beginning of our 22nd year of marriage. Thabiti and I had a sweet day of quiet reflection and teen-like giddiness over the past 21 years the Lord has given us as husband and wife. It’s been a rollercoaster but the ride is not over. The thrill is still at a peak!

In addition to thinking about how well my husband has led our family, and has given himself for me in sacrificial love, I’ve also had this song in my head the past two weeks in anticipation of our anniversary. Enjoy!



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Marriage is Not the Ultimate Good

I love my husband! He’s my best friend, lover, hero, favorite pastor, counselor, dessert taster and laundry folder! We laugh, cry, mourn, celebrate, pray, study, read, strategize, dream, and do nothing together. My life is made more joyous and full because of him. There is no other person on the planet who compares to him in my eyes and heart. BUT…my love for him has bounds. My love for Christ far outweighs the love I have for Thabiti, and he would not have it any other way! My love for him is also bounded by this life. It is for this age.

The people of this age marry and are given in marriage. But those who are considered worthy of taking part in that age and in the resurrection from the dead will neither marry nor be given in marriage, and they can no longer die; for they are like the angels (Luke 20:34-36).

I’ve been reading a wonderful book called God’s Design for Women by Sharon James. In it, she reminds us that Jesus puts marriage in its eternal perspective. She says:

Implying that marriage is the ultimate good ignores the biblical teaching that marriage was designed as a temporary illustration of an eternal reality.

The eternal reality is the love of Jesus, the bridegroom for his bride the church. Whether married or single, all Christians equally are participants in that reality. Human marriage is just a signpost pointing to something greater and more lasting (Ephesians 5:32). When well-meaning married Christians patronize their single friends by implying that life isn’t worth living unless one is married, they are disbelieving Jesus’ teaching.

No, Jesus teaches that the ultimate good is his love for us. That love is faithful, passionate and everlasting. We find our greatest happiness in him. (p. 144)

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Man Friendly Valentine’s Day Ideas…For Next Year

I was just reading Mary Kassian’s blog post, 10 Easy-on-the-Budget Ideas for Valentine’s Day. I appreciated her suggestions, but as I read her post to my husband, we decided to inject a bit more testosterone into her ideas and make them more “man friendly”. Here’s her list, and our man-up version.

1. Give him Valentines by the Dozens. Mary suggests kid-themed valentine’s placed where your sweety can find them throughout the day. Hmmm….I just can’t imagine Thabiti seeing Mickey under his mousepad, saying “Awww! My wife is so sweet! Another card!” But, I can imagine him saying, “At least it doesn’t have too many words!”

2. Pack a Valentine’s Picnic. This could be great! Pack a picnic and have it with him…at the GAME!

3. Burn a Personal CD. Love songs on a cd….This must be a prelude….

4. Make a Romantic Jigsaw. Just get a piece of furniture with some assembling required. Make that piece of furniture the cabinet for the flat-screen tv. Then, you could put the family photos, cards, candles on display in the cabinet.

5.  Create a Crossword Puzzle. Again-this must be a prelude….Just sayin’….

6. Name a Star. Mary says name a star after your hubby and then view it online. I’d say toss in a real telescope and you’ve got a winner!

7. Leave a Message on the Lawn. CAUTION! I would advise extreme care in messing with your man’s grass!

8. Celebrate 12 Days of Valentine’s. How about just 3 days of golf, 5 days of ESPN, 12 days of meat–sausages, steaks, etc.

9. Hang some love on a Valentine’s Tree. Create some coupons that would be a blessing to your man–one day of cuddle-free football, no chick flicks for a weekend, host a guy party with a few of his friends and his favorite game day foods, one day of football with cuddles (but no questions!).

10. Jar of Affection. Mary says, “Decorate a large jar with valentines. Fill the jar with folded pieces of paper—coupons—for “treats” such as a kiss, a back rub, breakfast in bed, coffee at starbucks, candles with dinner, etc. Your sweetheart gets to draw one coupon out each day until they are gone.” — no changes necessary for this one!

Happy Valentine’s Day!


20 Years and Counting…Come Rain or Come Shine

I’m not sure when we first heard this song, but it’s been “our song” for as long as I can remember. Many artists have their own rendition of this classic tune, but Dinah Washington brings it in this one! My favorite verse is the last one, when Dinah belts out:

“Days may be cloudy or sunny.
We’re in or we’re out of the money.
But I’m with you always.
I’m with you come rain or come shine.”

Boy, do we know about those days! But through the cloudy, down-to-our-last-dime days, the Lord’s faithfulness has shone through and I am grateful and still in love with my best friend! It’s been 23 years since Thabiti followed me around campus at NC State University freshman orientation weekend, asking for a date and for my number. It’s been 20 years of marriage to the love of my life, my best friend. I’m so grateful to the Lord for saving us, for uniting us, and for calling our family to gospel ministry. I love you Babe! Happy Anniversary!